“Why Does He Keep Seeing Me If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship?”
Have you ever been dating a guy who keeps you at arm’s length? And you wonder: “Why Does He Keep Seeing Me If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship?”
It’s a valid question, for sure.
There are a lot of reasons he might not want to go further with you.
Now, let’s dig into the reasons why a guy would keep seeing you even if he doesn’t want a relationship.
SECRET REASON 1: He Got The Prize Without Earning It…
Look, it’s no secret that guys are more focused on physical intimacy when it comes to the start of a relationship. Guys push to see how much they can get away with.
But here’s the reality: The faster you “hook up” with him, the less likely he will fall in love with you.
He’ll just assume that you’re not looking for more than something physical because you didn’t wait to make your physical connection feel SPECIAL.
And then he’ll assume you are not The One!
But he will gladly stay in a purely physical relationship (with you) until something – or someone – better comes along.
SECRET REASON 2: He Doesn’t Know What YOU Really Want…
If a guy doesn’t know what you really want in the relationship – possibly because you haven’t told him – he won’t push the relationship forward on his own.
Most guys actually WANT a relationship! I know it doesn’t seem like it, but it’s true.
A man is “commitment-phobic” only when he doesn’t think you’re the RIGHT woman for him. Then he will try to play the “let’s keep hooking up” game and not rock the boat.
Many women stay in a relationship only because they have invested so much time in already. It’s much harder for women to walk away from relationships than men.
I’ve even had a girlfriend tell me – as I was breaking up with her: “Yeah, I know you’re not the right one for me, but I just don’t want to let go!”
How many times has this happened to you? Ever been caught up in a relationship you knew was definitely NOT “The One” – but you just couldn’t let go?
- Maybe you couldn’t handle the rejection…
- Maybe you worried that you wouldn’t get another chance at love…
Don’t sit silent in your relationship hoping that he’ll just “catch on” that you want something more secure and committed.
SECRET REASON 3: He Doesn’t See Why He Should Commit…
The flow of a relationship is that it should move forward at a natural pace.
And at some point, a guy will naturally bond with you to forge a commitment.
But here’s the part that some women miss: If a guy knows he doesn’t have to make a commitment to you to keep you as his girlfriend (or to keep the sexy times a-happenin’) – he won’t.
Men realize that a commitment to a woman is a big deal. Especially for him. The woman that a man commits to could make or break his future, and his happiness.
Men understand this on a deep level. So he’s going to be VERY cautious about giving his freedom away.
Let me explain it like this:
- A WOMAN’S sexuality is her prize to the man who proves himself…
- A MAN’S commitment is his reward to the woman who shows him the right Signals!
This is a key difference between men and women. You might have known about the first part, but I’ll bet the second one probably was new to you.
If he can keep getting the sex without having to make a commitment, he’s just fine with that. Because that buys him time to figure out if you’re The One for him.
But you know you won’t be fine without that commitment. You need more.
This is why so many women who SAY they’re okay with “friends with benefits” change their mind later on. They realize they want MORE.
And you should!
He has to understand that the price of having you is the commitment he gives to you.
Plain and simple.
And that’s not hard to do if you know how men think – and what to say to get him to connect with you!
If you’d like to learn more about this, go discover how to connect with him here…